The expectations of a sheet shaver.....

It should come as no surprise that someone as vain and silly and humorless and filled with the desire to martyr herself as Elly is is so judgmental that she cannot and will not see that there are two sides to things. As a matter of fact, the idea that people believe that there could be another side to the story is one of the "unfair" things that she hates. She is completely in the right, completely victimzed and everyone else cannot be allowed to anything other than wrong. The reason she's still burning with resentment for the minor indignities of her first few years of marriage is that her family has not admitted the "truth". Her "truth", of course, has no relation to anything like objective facts. John was and is an insenstive, ignornant, lazy clod who expected her to be a stay-at-home mom because he grew up expecting to have a wife to clean for him but he is not the villain who set out to rob her of her youth and happiness that she thinks he is. He knows that she blames him and the kids for every wrinkle, grey hair and extra ounce of flab but he knows that the responsibility for that is on her shoulders. He also knows better than to remind her of that fact. She'll also neve get the expected admission that her children's emotional needs were an "unfair" burden that they selfishly inflicted on their poor, helpless martyr-mommy. The amazing thing is that she thinks she's soooooo oooooooold when thinking like that is the hallmark of an idiot teenager. She sounds like one of the huffy, wet-behind-the-ears brat kids you see on the soaps ranting about "bad" things her parents did when she has neither the facts at hand nor the experience and wisdom to judge her elders.