The unthrown woman

It might seem to you and I that Connie has not, in fact, thrown herself at Phil. First off, the first inkling Phil might have that she went there to specifically see him is when he has to answer a querulous and ill-informed series of accusations from Elly. The one accusation I expect to hear that he won't know how to respond to is Elly's huffily stating "She went to Montréal! Isn't that enough?" This is, of course, because he doesn't realize that Elly and Connie seem to share the same odd belief; simply put, they think that traveling to where a man they're interested in is shamefully forward. Given that Phil has never seemed to share this belief, it seems that, for good or ill, his life was altered by having to interact with horribly ignorant, repressed women who don't know how the world works. What he saw and what he'll always remember having seen is a frightened woman dressed like a Russian cleaning lady who shrank from his attempts to break the ice. He knows that he hurt Connie's feelings and will eventually try to make things right but for the life of him, he can't figure out what he's supposed to have done wrong; it seems to me that he holds no truck with his sister's strange idea that he was supposed to have swept Connie off her feet merely because she went to where he lived so I should think that the man who is probably months away from burying his father still can't 'get' why Connie said what she did. He also doesn't understand why his niece Liz thinks the same thing because he doesn't know that Elly surrounded the kid with yes-men who hammered home the same bullshit story.