As I reminded you, Elly seems to have been labouring under the misapprehension that John would react violently to having his car smashed by a moron driver because she doesn't realize that he handles stress differently. Unlike her, he tends to try to somehow escape from stress instead of zapping the source immediately. It's why he plays with trains and why he buys sports cars and why he cowers in sheds and why he talks shit about princesses and how neat it is that his kids do things he'd like to do himself and so on and so forth.
This blindness stems from the fact that she does not handle stress in remotely the same way and assumes that everyone else has the hair trigger she has got. It's why she's all passive-aggressive and never tells people who she sees as a threat what she actually thinks of them. This is why she throws coffee cups and why she screams in horror at minor bullshit and why John stands around scratching his head wondering why she has the masochistic need to have her self-loathing validated. It also blinds her to the fact that the few times John does blow his top, it's because he behaves like a cornered rat who attacks when it cannot escape.
This blindness stems from the fact that she does not handle stress in remotely the same way and assumes that everyone else has the hair trigger she has got. It's why she's all passive-aggressive and never tells people who she sees as a threat what she actually thinks of them. This is why she throws coffee cups and why she screams in horror at minor bullshit and why John stands around scratching his head wondering why she has the masochistic need to have her self-loathing validated. It also blinds her to the fact that the few times John does blow his top, it's because he behaves like a cornered rat who attacks when it cannot escape.