The antagonism effect.....
Oct. 7th, 2011 01:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dreadedcandiru2Elly's tendency to actively work against her own self-interest doesn't stop with her need to have her children underfoot when she's working so she can have something to scream about. If it were limited to that, she'd be just another disorganized idiot who doesn't understand how to pace herself. Her need to sabotage herself also takes the form of something I was reminded of and commented on earlier: her insistence that her young son be elated by something that can only baffle him by how alien it is to his immediate concerns. As we've seen, she's quite angry with him that he doesn't especially care about something that he couldn't reasonably be expected to care about.
What she doesn't realize is that her insistence that he jump for joy when her column sees print and active animosity when he doesn't drives him to the conclusion that she's doing all this working-outside-the-home thing not only to escape him because she hates being around him but as a really complicated means of punishing him for not only wanting time away from watching over someone who gets away with everything because they love her more than they love him but for liking things that she doesn't. The end result is something of a vicious circle: the more she insists that he be supportive of her endeavors, the more sullenly antagonistic he is to her career. Since he, like her, is a self-absorbed narcissist who can't remember the past very well, it should probably sicken him that the nasty little not-quite-humans that Deanna can't seem to keep from bothering him seem to defy him and be evil by not caring about his thick damned books.
What she doesn't realize is that her insistence that he jump for joy when her column sees print and active animosity when he doesn't drives him to the conclusion that she's doing all this working-outside-the-home thing not only to escape him because she hates being around him but as a really complicated means of punishing him for not only wanting time away from watching over someone who gets away with everything because they love her more than they love him but for liking things that she doesn't. The end result is something of a vicious circle: the more she insists that he be supportive of her endeavors, the more sullenly antagonistic he is to her career. Since he, like her, is a self-absorbed narcissist who can't remember the past very well, it should probably sicken him that the nasty little not-quite-humans that Deanna can't seem to keep from bothering him seem to defy him and be evil by not caring about his thick damned books.
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